By Katie & Gay Hendricks
You can learn a lot of “techniques” when it comes to dating: how to flirt, whether or not to call, what to wear to catch his attention, where to go to meet men.
And you’ll probably get a lot of dates using them. You’ll also likely get into a few relationships.
But a lot of dates is not what you’re after, and time is ticking on those relationships if they’re not the right ones.
Dating techniques will get you a surface, “for now” relationship. But the kind of work that creates powerful shifts in you gets you a relationship that goes deep – the kind of relationship that will stand the test of time. The one that nurtures you from the inside out.
We’ll show you how to get that in a minute but for now, let’s make a clear distinction between surface (for now) and deep (forever) relationships.
“For Now” relationships are the ones where, no matter how much you try to tell yourself otherwise, you know, deep down, that something is missing. They usually play out like this:
One of the major hallmarks of a “for now” relationship is a lack of commitment. You feel uneasiness about the whole thing, because it seems as if he has one foot out the door. Or maybe you’re the one who is on the lookout for something better. Forever partners are excited about their future and make plans together.
If you find that you’re not being yourself with a partner, that’s a sure-fire sign of a relationship that won’t stand the test of time. Couples who want a forever relationship feel safe with each other – they feel “at home.”
Dead-end relationships are usually characterized by frustration. You’re not getting what you want and need, and you find that you’re spending more and more time analyzing what’s wrong. Forever relationships overflow with positivity, despite the bumps in the road that any couple will face.
A bunch of dates or failed relationships are like the junk food of romance. They won’t sustain you all the time. You want the certified organic relationship, and that’s the one we’re going to help you get.
If you’re ready to move past the “for now” relationships and embrace the one delicious romance you’ll want to celebrate every day, you’ll need a 3-step action plan:
These steps, if you commit to following them and then put them into practice, will move you from the unsatisfactory and depleting drama of surface relationships into the deeper realm of forever love.
We wouldn’t be married for over 30 years if we hadn’t gone through these steps ourselves, and we’ve now taught them to thousands of singles around the world.
Once you create the necessary inner shifts, dating will take on a whole new shape and feel for you. More importantly, you’ll stop endlessly dating and start effortlessly attracting your true love. We hope you’ll give us the honor of showing you how: